Ahead of My Time

I found this article online and read it to see what traditions are now obsolete:


I was a bit surprised to realize that I’d actually gone along with several of these at my wedding fourteen years ago.

1. Serve cake.
We had our wedding early in the morning so that by the standards of the day we were not “obligated” to have a reception.  I never liked receptions as a guest, so I sure didn’t think I wanted one as a bride.  One of the things about receptions was that it kept the guests occupied while all the wedding photos were taken.  Well, that’s another tradition we shot down (thanks to my Sis) we did our photo shoot BEFORE the ceremony.

3. Do silly dances.
No reception, no dancing.  Worked out well for us (since hubby can’t dance)

4. Have your dad walk you down the aisle.
By this time, my dad had been dead almost five years, and the idea of anyone else walking me down the aisle just was not acceptable.  My paternal grandfather would have been acceptable, but he was very feeble and wouldn’t have been able to do it.  He passed away two years later anyway.  So, I walked down the aisle by myself.  Yes, it was a bit radical fourteen years ago.

walking down the aisle

6. Wear white.
I don’t look good in white, and I have Victorian tastes, so I went with Candelight Ivory — very antique looking.

7. Separate the bride’s guests from the groom’s guests.
Okay, we were married in my home church — the one I was raised in, in the community I was raised in.  Hubby’s hometown was nine hours away.  Needless to say, his only guests were his mom and best friend who also served as his best man.  SO, in order to seat everyone we simply had the ushers alternate which side they seated people on.  That was quite radical at that time too.

8. Have just one Maid of Honor or Best Man.
I wanted simple.  I didn’t want an entourage.  I had a matron of honor (my sister) and a maid of honor (my college roommate)  that was it.  Hubby had his childhood best friend as his best man and my brother-in-law as his other groomsman.

our entourage

12. Toss your bouquet  — I’m not huge on flowers.  I carried a Bible instead of a bouquet and I wasn’t about to toss that!

17. Have a sit-down dinner reception — no reception at all.  We also didn’t have a huge rehearsal, so no rehearsal dinner either, we did provide a DQ Ice Cream Cake and soft drinks after the rehearsal.

19. Carry flowers — see “toss bouquet” above.

The other radical things I did was I played Enya for the music before the wedding.  The processional was Canon in D, which was not so unusual, but the recessional was Scotland the Brave!  Hee hee.

our receiving line

Also, we didn’t make our entourage buy special dresses, suits, etc.  We picked our colors of blue and grey (hubby is a yankee and I’m a southerner) and had them where their Sunday best in those colors.

“Our Song” consisted of Edelweiss.  We both liked the movie Sound of Music, hubby saying that was his favorite song.  I can’t tell you how many CDs I went through before I found and instrumental version (101 Strings, I LOVE you!) and I had it played during the candle lighting ceremony, after which my sister read a poem I had written about our love story.  That was kept top secret until the wedding as a surprise for hubby.
Our honeymoon was at the family cabin.  That was the best part, because the cabin had always been my most favorite place on earth and I wanted to share it with the love of my life.  He loved it.  He almost got me up to par in fly fishing 🙂

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3 thoughts on “Ahead of My Time

  1. I have just finished a post on my blog about censorship in Saudi Arabia when I came over to check out what you had written about over the last few days. I clicked on the link about weddings and found that the URL is blocked due to censorship issues. How funny is that?!

    I enjoyed your take on wedding traditions. Most of them are a complete waste of time and money. I really think that as important as weddings may be, the work put into the marriage afterwards is what really counts.

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